Research and observations have consistently shown that women and men approach seeking emotional or practical support for mental health challenges in distinctly different ways. 

Women are more likely to seek one-on-one, face-to-face interactions, while men often turn to group settings for camaraderie and assistance. Understanding these tendencies can help create more effective support systems tailored to the unique needs of each gender.

Women tend to value deep, personal connections when seeking support. They often confide in a close friend, family member, or counsellor to process emotions, gain perspective, and find solutions. This preference for individualized support may stem from both biological and cultural factors:

These face-to-face interactions allow women to delve deeply into their emotions, fostering a sense of validation and connection. For example, a woman going through a difficult divorce might prefer talking privately with a trusted friend or counsellor to work through her feelings and develop a plan for moving forward.

In contrast, men are more likely to seek support in group settings, whether that involves joining a sports team, participating in group therapy, or simply spending time with a circle of friends. This preference can be explained by several factors. Traditional masculinity norms often discourage men from showing vulnerability, especially in one-on-one settings. Group environments allow men to seek support without the pressure of being overly emotional or exposing their deepest feelings. Also men often bond through shared activities rather than direct emotional exchanges. For example, a man dealing with job loss might join a networking group or participate in a recreational activity where mutual support is subtly embedded in the shared experience.

Group settings provide a sense of belonging and shared purpose that can be deeply therapeutic. Whether it’s a group therapy session or a weekend hiking trip, these environments allow men to gain insights and encouragement while maintaining a sense of autonomy.

It is however  important to note that these tendencies are not absolute. Some men prefer one-on-one support, and some women thrive in group settings. At Petersgate Counselling we encourage a variety of counselling options to ensure that everyone can access the help they need in a way that resonates with them.